Friends

Through Facebook, I have been able to reconnect with some friends from days past. And I am so grateful for that! I am amazed!

It has made me think about how people stay connected through the years. I tell my boys all the time friendships are like gardens, you take care of them and tend to them they will grow but if you ignore them they start to die and go away.

I have been thinking about all of the friendships that I have had over the years, grade school friends, high school friends, work friends, etc...how did I ever let them go? Or did they let me go? This has been really in my thoughts a lot lately.

I thought I was a good friend. I remember birthdays, life events and am always willing to give everything to that friend. Then why do they leave? Why do they pull away? Did I offend them? Say something wrong?

How do people go from talking everyday, seeing each other weekly go to being non existence? I know we all get busy, we move on but when there is a bond there how does it break?

I think about my Maid of Honor when I got married, we talked everyday, saw each other weekly even when I moved to San Diego we talked all the time and saw each other every few weeks. And now.....nothing! I send Christmas cards, birthday cards, anniversary cards and....nothing. Why do I try so hard when nothing comes back?

I can play that same story over and over again, and I still come back to why do people pull away?

I can admit there were some friendships that I lost because I was to wrapped up with a boyfriend/husband and for that I regret everyday.

I have tended my garden of friends and my garden seems empty, I do have some pretty amazing friends but I wonder how long to my garden is really empty?